Addiction

yep,...........that's right,.............here i go again reliving the horror of addiction,...............except this time through the lives of others!!!
most of us never really recover from addiction. it might seem like we do, but usually we simply swap a gross addiction, for one that more acceptable in the society that we live in today. the truth is that most folks are addicted to something. it don't have to be alcohol or drugs, but i would guess these two cause the most devastation in lives all crossed the board. it slowly kills the addicted person, and those of us that love them also.
i have tried every program out there to solve my own personal addiction problems. none of them worked for me, and every one seems valid, built around good basic soundness. i tried, and i tried. i've done every thing to the letter, and none of them worked. i kept going back to my old ways, and getting wasted all over again. i did this for more than 20 years......................then i found the solution!!
I'm a firm believer in God. no if's, or buts about it. one day i fund my solution in the Bible. Paul wrote that we have to work out our own salvation, and that got me to thinking. if God will allow us to work out our own salvation then i should be able to work threw my addiction problems. I'm an unique individual, and i needed a unique plan of operation. 
once again,...........this is really not about me, or the working solution that i found. it's about others that are close to me, and their reaction to the people in their lives that have gone back into the dark, cold, lonely, world of addiction. this truly amazes me. why would somebody choose to mess their lives back up just because a love one fell? especially when they are not together, and abusing the same substance.
sometimes i believe that we need to learn how to love from a distance. we can't control people, and if they choose to act in a way that don't jive with our everyday lives,.............then we simply back off a distance, and let them have at it. the really sad reality of dealing with the addicted person is that some of them are going to die, and the worst part is that we can't stop them, or even slow them down. all we can do is let them know that we love them, and they are welcome back in our lives as soon as they are willing to look for solutions. all the nagging in the world just creates a worse problem. nobody wants to be nagged constantly especially when they feel guilty for their actions to begin with. it just puts more distance between those that suffer, and those that love them.
everything that i write has a hidden message within the contents of the post. I'm writing this for one of my friends that i also love dearly, and can't stand to see what is going to become of him if he doesn't slow down. i just want to point this out, and make it very clear my intentions of writing this post. i don't want to leave any mystery, or loopholes to escape through. not that he needs any, because he is a grown man, and has the right to do whatever he wants with his own body. i just hate to see him struggle needlessly.

                 ............much love